We live in a world where our every decision is decided upon what another person will think. Everything from the jeans we wear, down to the color of our lips is carefully crafted to suit societies expectations. I’m here to tell you, no more! I will no longer live to please those around me. I will not be what the world wants, I will be myself and you should too. YOU are good enough, the way you are.
STOP LIVING FOR OTHER PEOPLE
This is key here. I’m serious. Once you stop living to please other people, you truly find happiness. I’m not saying I’m perfect at this and don’t occasionally make decisions based on those around me, because I do. We’re human and that’s only natural. But today’s day in age it can be so easy to find yourself living for someone else. Don’t waste another second of your day comparing yourself to those around you. We’ve all been there. We do our hair and makeup, we feel beautiful for a whole .2 seconds until we’re scrolling Instagram and come across someone’s Facetuned selfie. You’re sitting there like… “How in the F*&% does she get her eyebrows that perfect?” Keep scrolling… “How is she that skinny…she doesn’t even go to the gym!?” Keep scrolling.. “How can he afford to travel to another country every other weekend?” I mean what the actual F*&%!? I feel your pain. But newsflash honey, you’ll never be happy until you stop comparing yourself to other people. Your page 10 could be someone else’s page 260. We’re all at different stages in our lives and comparing only hurts you in the end. Remember that sometimes it might be someone else looking at one of your photos thinking the same thing. Social media is a blessing and a curse all in one. We neglect to share the raw/real parts of our lives. We reserve our pages for only the best moments. So just stop. Stop doing that to yourself. Someone else’s beauty..someone else’s life…or someone else’s happiness is not a lack-there of your own. Remember that.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself, even if that means less friends. At the end of the day wouldn’t you rather spend your time with genuine people anyway? I thought joining a sorority was a great opportunity when I started my 2nd degree at a university. I was confident it was just what I needed to make friends. After all, they all looked like they were having SO much fun ALL of the time. Their lives were perfect…..in photos. Key word there. I was naive, and I wanted that. After 2 short semesters I learned that trying to find happiness in other people is no way to self satisfaction. I had some fun moments and I did meet a few people that are still good friends of mine. But most of all, I learned from the experience. I learned that there is nothing wrong with realizing YOU are different. I had very little in common with these women. You know what people say… “You can’t fake happiness.” Tell that to a sorority girl posing for a candid. Every part of it felt forced. I simply did not fit in. Try spending 3 weeks before recruitment with a room full of college girls, you might just commit suicide. But, I made it out alive somehow… and I’m so glad I did. Had I not experienced all of this, I would have never met my best friend Alyssa. Someone who truly understands me. If she was all that came out of that experience than I wouldn’t change a thing.
DO WHAT YOU LOVE
Something that I’ve always wanted to do is create Youtube videos and share them with the world. Heres the catch though, I’ve actually been doing the whole Youtube thing for years. But for the longest time I kept most of my videos private and never told anyone that I actually knew in real-life anything about it. NOBODY gets it, except for the people on the internet of course. I’ve been lucky enough to meet friends from other countries through Youtube. I’ve collaborated with Laneya Kelsey, a Canadian vlogger who started her Youtube journey around the same time as me. It bothers me that I’ve been so content with keeping this passion of mine to myself. I was afraid of the judgement. Some people don’t understand why I’d want to carry a camera around and record everything. But they don’t have to understand. I wasn’t put on this earth for people to understand me. I’m glad that i’m finally starting to realize that. Creating content and posting it on youtube makes me happy! I want to spread positivity through my life. As much as I enjoy watching other videos on Youtube I love filming my own! I love interacting with the online community of Youtube. Finally, I am done hiding it. Whether I have 100 subscribers or 1 Million, I’m doing what makes me happy. At the end of the day, thats all that really matters right?
If you’re interested in checking out my channel click the link: My Youtube Channel
What’s my channel about? Mostly videos of my life, even the not-so interesting parts of it. Commonly known as vlogs. My channel is a place where you can see the raw and real me. I not only want to create videos to share with the world but also to record my journey, one day I’ll look back and see how far i’ve come.
NO ONE CARES
I really hope that this post spoke to you. Recording my life is my hobby. I hope you’ll find yours and run with it. Don’t let anyone stop you from doing what makes you truly happy. I’m just sorry it took me this long to figure that out. We only get one life. So live it up…unapologetically!
At the end of the day… No one really cares anyway. If you want to see my last post click here.